No one gets to decide when they are born or the environment in which they are raised. Unfortunately we may have been brought into an environment that is toxic and leaves us traumatized as adults. Others may have even experienced attacks of violence outside of the home. These experiences leave deep wounds that do not go away as easy as we may want them to. Many may choose to be empathic while others choose to be angry and resentful. With free will, we all have a choice to make about how we move forward into adulthood. Healing past trauma is never limited and can be obtained with perseverance.
Here are 3 steps to start healing today!
Since you are here, you have already begun step one, being aware. Understanding that you are carrying past trauma is the beginning of healing. It's usually after dealing with another life event that we begin to realize that we are still hurting. Failed relationships, loss of work, experiencing mental illness are only a few to name. It is at this point that we begin looking for answers. Now you can learn about yourself and begin to do your own inner work.
Acceptance is step two. It may be hard at times, but accept your truth. None of us wants to be hurt, yet we were. I can't go back and change things and neither can you. Validate your experience and do not let anyone invalidate it. What we can change is our current emotions and our ability to move forward as healthy thriving individuals.
The last and most important step is to seek help from trusted sources. Starting with family and friends sounds good, but if they are the source of your trauma then that will not help you. Seek out professional counselors or a local support group. This is a great way to not feel so alone as you are healing. There are others in the world that have gone through trauma and may need to hear your story to move ahead. Battered Group Development Project offers trauma aware and self development coaching and you are more than welcome to start with us.
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