While researching toxic personality types online, I came across a great blog that I found helpful in describing the types of people to avoid. I found the blog to be humorous but very insightful, so I have the name of the author and the website listed below. My favorite quote is “we like to think that people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals. I laughed when I read this, because it is so true of how I want to see people, instead of seeing them for who they really are. I have made the big mistake of trying to talk sense with the toxic person, only to realize that I leave the conversation feeling more insulted than when I started. The no contact rule is the hardest thing to do, but it is the only thing that helps maintain your sanity and get clarity on the situation. I have taken the liberty of listing the eight personality types and their descriptions, but check out the blog to read why they are considered toxic. The definition of toxic is – 1. of, pertaining to, affected with, or caused by a toxin or poison: a toxic condition 2. acting as or having the effect of a poison; poisonous: a toxic drug. These types of people will bring nothing but chaos and confusion to your life. I know we think we should love everyone in a certain way, but even the bible wisely tells us in 2 Timothy 3, from such people turn away. The mindset these people have chosen is designed to tear others down.
1. Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. As a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your ‘buttons’ are, and push them to get what they want.
2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them “It isn’t always about you.”
3. Debbie Downers: These people can’t appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they’ll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.
4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people’s unique perspectives refreshing, they find them ‘wrong’. If you like someone’s eclectic taste, they find it ‘disturbing’ or ‘bad’.
5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can’t do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.
6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a ‘there, there’ type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.
7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.
8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.
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8 Toxic Personalities to Avoid | Brett Blumenthal
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